Kids are back in school, which means homework starts back up, school activities come back, and the house is quickly turned into a transit point for both friends and family.
It’s hard to have a romantic night when you run Grand Central Station.
In the midst of all this, couples start to notice a separation from each other as the hassles of life pull them apart. So how do you keep the spark when the kids keep blowing it out?
5: The Game Getaway
Stuck at that softball/volleyball/swim meet/archery tournament with a kid on the team? Turn it into a date night as soon as the coach has got your little athlete. Between games or while your kid isn’t playing, sneak to the concessions for a shared hot dog and soda. Give yourself the time to have a laugh and pretend that you’re pulling something over on the kid.
4: The Weekly Grown Up Movie
Set one night each week when after the kids go to bed you and your partner can watch a movie together. Let the kids know that this is your time and not to be disturbed. Let them also know that the movies you’re watching won’t be that interesting to them, then make sure to watch something like a romantic comedy or drama, something most kids wouldn’t be interested in watching. Make that time for the two of you to enjoy each other’s company. If a whole movie is too much, watch part of it or an episode of a TV show.
3: The Speed Date
Dinner can be a chaotic mess, especially with several little ones in the house. Instead of trying to eat with them, help them eat first. When they’re done, send them off to play while you and your spouse sit down to a dinner with just the two of you. This’ll give you the chance for a quick breather and to catch up with each other’s day before the next activity with the kids.
4: The Sunday Drive
Sick of the kids destroying the house? Pile everyone into the car and go for a drive. You and your beloved can sit in the front seat and talk while the kids enjoy the ride behind you. Plus, it’s scientifically proven that when kids are in a car long enough they will fall asleep. It has something to do with nature providing parents a chance to have some peace and quiet.
5: Hire a babysitter and Run Away
If none of these are doing the trick to reconnect you to your loved one, remember it’s okay to hire a babysitter for a night or drop the kids off at a relatives and spend the night somewhere away, say The Anniversary Inn (shameless promotion). Giving yourselves the chance to get out of the house for an evening can be extremely helpful to the mental health of parents, which in turn make them better parents and the kids are happier in the long run.
What have you done to get some couples time?